Whenever someone, whether it be a stranger or someone I know, says "Congrats!" on our pregnancy I always tell them that we are pregnant with twins. I just want both babies to "count" or be recognized somehow. I worked so hard to get them that I feel I need to be fair to each of them and let people know that there are two babies. Yep, I am already starting to be fair with my twins...what one gets the other will also get. My sister and I were raised so fairly and both of us have always felt equally loved, nurtured, important, etc by our parents.
When I tell others that we are pregnant with twins the first question they ask (in at least 99.9% of instances) is: Do twins run in your family? DH and I simply say, "yes, they run in both sides of our family". And, quite amazingly, this is true. My aunt was a twin (although the details on what happened to her brother are somewhat unknown. We know that he died, but not sure if he died before or after birth). One of my grandma's was also a twin. DHs grandma was also a twin.
Obviously our twins were not conceived due to the genetic make-up of our family, but do strangers and others whom we know really need to know the details of how our babies were conceived? Nope, I don't think so! I don't think this because I am embarrassed of the route we had to go to get pregnant with these babies (because I am quite proud of how DH and I handled our IF), but I don't feel that all people can handle the information on IVF, nor does everyone with agree with ART procedures. I also feel like I didn't tell others that DH and I had sex to conceive L (once again, I'll pause while you lean over and throw up a little in the garbage can....). Simply put, it isn't any business of someone whom I wish not to share it with.
The second most common question we get asked is: Do you know what you are having? or Will you find out what you are having? DH and I have agreed that we will find out the sex of our babies, but we will not be sharing this with anyone. Most of our close friends and family know the exact date and time our children were conceived, the date we got pregnant, and the date we found out we were pregnant. They will also know when our planned c-section will occur. We want one little thing to keep to ourselves as a surprise for others. We have been so blessed to be supported by so many people who care about us and our journey. It's just that I want just one eensy, weensy little surprise, that's all.
My next appointment is on Tuesday with my OB. I have a bunch of questions to ask her and we are excited to hear the babies heartbeats again. We will also be setting up our 20 week u/s.