Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Thyme for Friends

I am still trying to plant my garden so that I have fun things to look back at when I am in my 2ww and doubting everything and getting on the bitter bus.

I just got off of the phone with my dear friend, S. I just have to say, I LOVE her! We met several years ago at work and we have become such good friends. She used to live in the Cities (as in Twin Cities of St Paul and Minneapolis) until her DH got a new job and they transfered a few hours north of the Cities. I was so sad when I found out she was moving last year and I cried. And I cried. And I cried. I don't even know if she knows that I cried as much as I did.


My friend, S (right), and I (left)- February 2009

So let me tell you what is so stinkin' special about her. She is so kind and has one of the most genuine hearts I have ever met. She always asks me, "How are you doing?" in that gentle voice that lets me know that she is asking in regards to our IF (which, as most IFs know, a lot of people purposefully avoid :that" topic all together). She is always honest with me and redirects me if I am off my rocker. We think so similarly that our conversations are always so easy and we have SO much in common.

Today she told me that she feels bad that she lives so far away because she wants to be here to support me through out IF struggles. The funny thing is, she IS supporting me so much by just listening to me and my nonsense. Just having her a phone call away is such a huge blessing. Now, that's not to say that I don't miss seeing her more often. I certainly wish that I saw her more and we are planning some things for this summer so that we can get together. We also had the opportunity to go to her new beautiful home in February and we met at the Mall of America last Monday since they were in town for Easter.

In addition to S, I have a couple of other friends whom I LOVE LOVE LOVE. My good friend, P, and I have laughed, cried, laughed, cried and laughed and cried. We always have such wonderful conversations... you know the kind that when you leave that person you feel lighter and spiritually lifted. We met at work a few years ago and were fast friends. We are both Italian and have so much fun together.

My friend, L, is also such a great person. We have known each other for over four years, but did not become really good friends until the last year or so. On Saturday we drove 1 hour and 20 minutes to one of her friends houses to go to a Spa party. Even though it was a long drive, it went so quickly because we always have so much to talk about.

D and I have been friends since high school and our friendship has grown over the years. We met her senior year of high school (I was a junior) and I helped her celebrate her senior year on her senior skip day (when all the seniors skip school). We ended up at the zoo. When she looked at the giraffes she asked me, "OMG! Is that a giraffes penis? It is huge!" Turns out, it wasn't his penis, but it was so funny! I will never forget that day. We laughed about it for years and still do. She loves to send mail to people so about 3 times/month I get a hand-written note card in the mail from her. Every once in a while she finds a giraffe note card to send to me. LMAO! (Ok, so I know this story most likely is not funny to you, but I have to have something funny to look back at during my 2ww!)

I have some other good friends, but these are the best. Truly.

4 comments:

kayjay said...

What a beautiful picture you posted of you and your friend S. It sounds like you have quite the support system there with your friends and I am so glad that you feel nurtured and cared for by those around you.

Fashionably Infertile said...

You are so lucky to have such wonderful friends! I think it was incredibly special that you dedicated your post to your friends. I hope they all know how much they mean to you.

Pretty picture!

Jill M. said...

True friends are so hard to come by, especially when IF enters the picture. So glad to hear that you have this type of support from these friends, hang onto them, sounds like they are keepers.

Very nice photo, Thanks for sharing. It's always fun to put a face with the name.

DAVs said...

What a nice tribute! It is so good to have solid friends on whom to lean when the tough IF stuff starts happening. Cute pic!